Advice for My Younger Self

Most people go for the 10-year mark, but I will do 5.  I say you don’t want to deal with too many disappointments all at once. If time travel works, here is what I would say.

1.  Look after yourself.


If you see more skin on your head after you shower.  You are going bald.  If there is a lot hair on the bed sheets in the morning when you wake up.  You are going bald.  If your friends tell you to get rogaine and you become bitter.  You are going bald.  The fact is 2/3 of men go bald between age 30-35, much earlier in my case.  Pathetic gene, F&*&*Do something about it.  Don’t wait for all your hair to fallout to start treatment.  Try Rogaine.  Try hair thickening products like Nioxin and Lemon Sage.

2.  Collect friends at work.

alcohol-492871_1280Most will shift focus to career building, but you will, at some point, switch career and need the connection.  Not that you make friends with that intention but relationship is important.  Hang out.  Have fun.  Be with positive and fun loving people.

3.  Do yoga, meditation, tai chi or any natural healing exercises to strengthen your mind and immune system.


Most cells in your body will change after some period.  You change every 7 years (0-7 Years, 7-14 Years, 14-21 Years, 21-28 Years, 28-35 Years, 35-42 Years, 42-49 Years, 49-56 Years,56-63 Years, 63-70 Years, 70-77 Years, 70-77 Years, 77-84 Years).  Your hair will start to thin at age 26 and will regrow in unwanted places. Nature can be so cruel.You will lose physical strength, the digestive system will start to have malfunction and you will get sick more often.

4.  Attend big events.

BEIJING, CHINA - MAY 5: (CHINA OUT) A newlywed couple, the groom from France and bride from China, attend their Chinese style wedding ceremony at the Grand Sight Garden on May 5, 2007 in Beijing, China. Chinese people are celebrating the week-long May Day holiday, known as one of the three
(Photo by China Photos/Getty Images)

Even if  the airplane ticket ends up costing you thousand of dollars – fly back.  Be with people on their wedding day.  It is more important than you think.  The amount of love you give is the amount of love you get. That is the downside to the Foreign Service.

5.  Plan ahead


If you work for the federal government, a tentative offer is not a job offer. Make sure you get a firm  handshake before resigning.  A lot of things could go wrong in between. Sometime it is beyond your control, but for the things within your control, make doubly sure that they are well taken care of.  ShitThings happen, move on.

6.  Don’t be so critical.

tough love

Tough love is not necessary good.  People don’t respond well to it.  It’s better to mind your business.  People won’t thank you for your constructive criticism.  Leave them the heck alone.  Take off the maturity hat.  Focus on yourself.  Laugh more.

7.  Read more.


Read at least one book a month.  Take more photos.  Start an online journal/website. Enjoy your travels more.  Reading will enrich your personal and professional life.

8.  Join Toastmaster.


Don’t underestimate the power of public speaking, especially in your line of work. There is room for improvement, actually quite a lot, and Toastmaster helps.

There are no more nugget of wisdom, except it becomes acceptable to talk about yoga and hair care with your guy friends.  Five years from now, you and your bald friends may even exchange text messages about the latest hair care products and think nothing of it.  That is something you get to look forward to.  Enjoy your life, man!


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